Anti-Bullying

Anti-Bullying

Ken Rigby (Australia) and Dan Olweus (Norway) – International anti-bullying program gurus

Book – Best Friends, Worst Enemies

Definition of Bullying involves: • Desire to hurt • Hurtful action • Power imbalance • Evident enjoyment • Repetition • Sense of being oppressed on the part of the victim

Present definition to teachers and parents and students, put it in the handbook. Students sign a “Commitment to Community” document in advisory.

Girls – relational aggression, can be more subtle,

Consequences Chart • Make a big one, list everything • Develop a policy so teachers are clear and on same page

Online Bullying • Really difficult • What happens outside of school affect the community in school so it is our business

Gossip • Feather pillow metaphor • Really a big issue

Pro-active • Teach kids empathy explicitly • Scenarios – one child being isolated, put-downs, etc • Let kids generate both unkind and assertive, kind responses • Organize a list of books that every teacher reads students to model responses • Make it clear and explicit to students what responses to bullying or bad behavior are allowed and which aren’t • Community service builds empathy

Resources --- 1. Green Chimneys - A school for really difficult kids, work with animals. 2. Bully Proof 3. Flirting or Hurting 4. Stanley King Institute – Counseling Conversations – helps you learn to listen more effectively to kids – week long training.